We are getting ready and we prepare ahead for the most important events of our lives. We take our time to choose the school we want to study in, the job that is going to fit our personality, the future partner, and all the other details of our lives. We are waiting for the time when we can launch our projects, for the days when we can celebrate the victory after a long run. We are focused on getting things straight and put all of our time and energy into our goals and dreams. But are we ready to fail and lose everything in one moment? Are we really prepared to start over our lives in a different country, with different people, and in a different state of mind? Where is that environment that teaches us how to get up when we fall? Where are those people around us to support us and be there when we barely have the energy to make it through the day? We are encouraged to move forward and to forget what makes us uncomfortable, but are we ready to change the surroundings?
“Waiting for ‘real life’ to begin when you’re ‘ready’ means you’ll never be ready for real life because real life never happens when you’re ready.”
― Richie Norton
We meet people that we think will be in our lives for a long time and we invest our time and feelings in them, sometimes too naive to believe that the same people we love can disappoint us the most. We add to our dream board many ideas we want to achieve and we imagine the day when we will celebrate them. But where are the lessons to teach us how to behave after a great deception, an illness, or a loss? We are selfish and we don’t care for those around us when probably they need us the most. They have problems, not us, but in fact, we are never walking on a solid foundation and anytime life can give us a lesson and put us in a challenging situation. Are we ready for that? One day we have a family around, we have all our dreams in our pocket, and the next day we found ourselves naked in front of our own fears. We never wish to fail and we try to feed our consciousness positive thoughts, but sometimes these changes must happen. We are never prepared to lose, fail or suffer, but it happens, and in these cases what are we doing? Nobody is prepared to lose a dear one, face war, or become ill, but these things happen and we are too small to change them when it happens. Even for the best events in our lives we are not truly prepared and sharing a home with someone else, their habits, and their ways or being day by day can be challenging. We are not ready either to share our bodies when bearing children, but yet is happening all the time regardless if we are ready or not. Important is not if we are ready, because we are never prepared, but how we deal with these changes in our lives?
“Ready? It doesn’t matter. The world is changed by people who aren’t ready.”
― Richie Norton
The most powerful solution to overcome a great deception in life stays in our hands. We are those little seeds that have everything necessary to thrive between our covers, and the resources necessary to bloom and grow again. Some seeds can be dormant for a very long time until the conditions become favorable and trigger the changes, and these usually come from outside. These signals can be as small as a sunrise or the moonlight to activate a small seed to start a new life. For humans, the resources are inside of us, and the most powerful is our mind. If we can change our perspective and state of mind we can find also the courage and determination to move forward. But we are feeding our minds with thoughts, good and bad without distinction. Our subconscious doesn’t have a sense of humor and acts accordingly, that’s why is so hard to start moving those wheels, when there is a push and pull between what can help us and what is destroying us. Slower or faster, once we started to change our ideas from our minds an avalanche of emotions comes tumbling and it is overwhelming. There are too many, too hard to understand, too heavy to carry all day long. It is a process, and not an easy one, but if we are able to silence our thoughts for a few minutes every day, in time with practice and patience, all the negativity will start passing by like clouds in the sky, like wind through our hair and move on, living just a cold chill behind. Meditation, prayers, or anything that helps silence our mind is valuable tools that can be used in the process and these fights we are having with ourselves. In time we will discover that we can silence our thoughts and we can make room for things that brighten up our days because a busy and cloudy mind couldn’t see behind the horizon. Nature is a great healer also, and a simple walk in a garden with colorful flowers, the power of the ocean that sends to the shore foamy waves, or maybe the sun can warm our frozen souls. Are a process and a journey that we have to take alone, and only after we found back our center, do we get the equilibrium back we can try again from a different state of mind. Are we ready for that? Probably not but we will never be ready unless we try and see if we learned something from our past experiences. Walking with fear and caution, but not stopping is a better way of living than never trying. We will never be ready again like we were when we didn’t know what disappointment or illness was. We still are the best version of ourselves, because as a small seed, we pushed through dirt, and we’ve been able to face the sun once again, deepening our roots that would make us stronger than ever and more powerful than we ever knew we are ready to be.
“We’ll never be ready. So I guess that means we’re as ready as we’ll ever be.”
― Neal Shusterman