“If someone is able to show me that what I think or do is not right, I will happily change, for I seek the truth, by which no one was ever truly harmed. It is the person who continues in his self-deception and ignorance who is harmed.”
― Marcus Aurelius
We think we are always right and our opinion is the only truth, and I don’t see anything wrong in here. I am made from my personal experiences and I can have a perception of life that is my only truth based on my beliefs. Now, if you don’t agree with me, it is a different story. I don’t judge you when you don’t agree, because I am aware that same as DNA, no human is the same, nobody lives exactly the same lifelike any another human. That created species diversity and when you look around and observe how many differences are you might realize that we don’t judge a mushroom for having a cap, we don’t judge birds for migrating every autumn or being jealous of trees that are blooming in the spring. Now my question is, what gives us the power to use prejudice, bias and to judge humans based on their gender, race, or religion?
“I know you despise me; allow me to say, it is because you do not understand me.”
― Elizabeth Gaskell
Before you even meet someone your mind scanned and made its own beliefs from a mile away for the person in front. I don’t say it is wrong and i believe is involuntary to judge based on their physical appearance, clothing preferences, hairstyle, makeup, or other belongings we’ve already marked in the chart. That is like the last stamp we have placed on an envelope before we even started the writing. Later on, we get more details about someone, we spend some more time together, we might even start liking that person, but that first impression will always be there. Prejudice is in our personalities without a specific reason, but unfortunately is expanding around friends and family, school, and media. We become puppets on a show that comes with a script and you just need to follow. But how we can change that? What about next time when we meet someone to take some time and start to ask them questions about their life. Show them that you are interested in their lives, what they like, what they don’t, what are their dreams, and what they think that made them fail sometimes. Taking your time to know someone, would reduce the prejudice and would make us first write the letters and then put the stamp on the envelope only when you know the whole story.
“It’s not at all hard to understand a person; it’s only hard to listen without bias.”
― Criss Jami
One of the common prejudice is made based on appearance: too fat, too short, too dark, too skinny. We are different from the first day of conception, we are raised in different environments, we develop our own ideas and we have personal beliefs, so when we use prejudice, with what exactly we compare the others? We are humans that don’t come with standards of quality, we are not molded in shapes and forms in factories, we are not made of clay and water. How come ” you are so fat” is a fact? Comparing with what? With me, with you ten years ago, with your neighbor, with some “TV star”? We are perfect the way we are, and we are unique in our shape or form. Having almost 30 sub-species of humans on planet Earth is irrelevant to judge and use prejudice when we are not even the same. We are similar in appearance but we are so different in everything we do and make. The only time I would compare myself with someone else, would be with me the day before, and if one day can make me grow and get better that would be my only focus of interest. Take more time to reflect on yourself than worry about someone else, because we are all created perfect but is up to us if we want to keep it that way or destroy the creation and become driven by prejudice.
“Even God doesn’t propose to judge a man till his last days, why should you and I?”
― Dale Carnegie
I welcome you to follow the tale of that young lady who learned that prejudice is only slowing her process for becoming a better person and her focus should be on her growth, not others so she to continued her beautiful experience on Earth without judgment and bias…
….continue reading the rest of the tale in PART 27