I know four different types of learning styles: visual, auditory, kinesthetic, reading/writing. Also, the time I spend can be different from my friends and family. Just because we are different doesn’t mean we have to be against each other. Life is like math; solutions can come from different methods and what is important are the results. Is like you already know that seven plus two is nine but we find out that also five plus four is also nine. When we do different things in the same group we share new experiences and ways of approaching problems and when we do things in the same way with our friends we are just comfortable and relaxed. I wish I don’t have to justify my decisions and my ways of spending my time, after all, we are only sharing our free time. I don’t see anything wrong with someone that is sharing the same space with someone with different passions as long that everything they are doing doesn’t happen in a different world. If there are no common points what is the point? We can be different but still share common passions and interests. Once we live totally independent in a group and we only share the space I don’t find that fun. We are not changing for others, we are learning new or the same things we already know from a different perspective. The time spent together I see it a mixt of my time with the one that brings together new ideas and opportunities. You can’t only be alone and quiet as well as you can’t be always in the middle of a busy place, is all about balance. Introverts usually find this balance around the people they feel comfortable with, and they can be fun and communicative, as well be quiet and mind their own interests.
“Those who follow the crowd usually get lost in it.”
― Rick Warren
It is a lot to deal with every day, but the most important thing is that we struggle all the time with acceptance and belonging. What is interesting is that we are actually don’t belong to anyone, not even in a marriage or a family, and we are only surrounded by people and their energies. We have around people who mind how we feel but don’t matter, like all those followers from social media, and those who matter and don’t mind because they accept you the way we are. We try so hard to be loved by others and often we forget how important is to love ourselves. Why I should care where someone spent their vacation and what they are doing if I am doing that from my pajamas in front of the television? Introverts are great at creating micro-worlds where they live their entire Universe. Maybe you would think they are alone and don’t belong to anyone but actually, they have the whole world in their hands. Their curiosity and determination can keep them awake for hours, their imaginations can create a whole world while reading and their passions achieve amazing results. Their mind is so busy that would not have to worry about if you like them or not, and that is not because are selfish, because are the most lovely people you will ever meet. Of course are some exceptions, but those introverts are just lost souls that couldn’t find their true meaning in this world and they poisoned themselves with their own hate. You might already know already that I only focus on the positive side and I am just hoping for them to find soon a passion. Speaking of passions, introverts would give so much from their time to their passions that would almost not have time to worry about being alone or having only a few people around them. Silence is also hard to achieve for them because their mind is always searching for solutions and the more we know the more we realize how little we actually know about this life on Earth.
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”
― Bernard M. Baruch
Many times we reconstruct the story of Cinderella, but I am talking about her sisters who tried to fit in the crystal shoe. It happens all the time to leave what we like and what keeps our attention to be just to be part of a community. It is nothing wrong with that as long as that group doesn’t change your values and your principles of life. If I like to wear colorful clothes and get in a group where all are wearing black, that means I should change my own clothes or I should have a different group that shares the same interests and clothes colors as me? If we don’t find a group to match right away, we should take the advice from an introvert and spend more time with ourselves to learn how we actually are and what we like to do. Doing “nothing” is actually a very productive way to spend free time, either in nature, meditating, praying, cooking, watching a funny movie, or reading a book. Those moments are so important for a peaceful mind and believe it or not can bring more joy than a group of people where you don’t feel comfortable around. If you can’t get bored in your own company for sure would be others that would want to be around you for the same energy you spread.
“We’re so quick to cut away pieces of ourselves to suit a particular relationship, a job, a circle of friends, incessantly editing who we are until we fit in.”
― Charles de Lint
Introverts are usually considered to be outsiders and a little bit freak. That is a controversial discussion because when we have mistaken principles with pride is impossible to see their side of thinking. If we choose to not fight against someone doesn’t mean we are weak, is because we are smart enough to understand that we can find a solution in a different approach to the situation. When things are not meant for us we are learning to love the sound of feet walking away.
“Me, I trust people who show you what freaks they are. It’s the ones who blend in that ya gotta watch out for.”
― Hope Larson
I welcome you to follow the tale of that young lady who learned that being different is not a bad thing and knowing yourself and being in her own company without getting bored is an important achievement as she continues her life on Earth …
….continue reading the rest of the tale in PART 36