We are limited by our own beliefs or external factors far from our ability to change much from others’ lives. However, we cannot get upset if someone doesn’t see the light in our hearts and the spark from our eyes. We are shining from within, and we share it with the surrounding, unfortunately when kept in dark for so long is hard for someone to adapt to a very strong light all of a sudden and need some time to adjust, so be patient with everyone you meet. Sometimes we don’t know to appreciate what we receive because we are not used to it, we walked with broken shoes or even bare feet on sharp stones and rough roads. The hardest part is to accept that others’ lives don’t depend on how much we love them or of how much we are willing to give them. We are only responsible for our lives and that is the only one where we should give our opinion. When someone decides to leave or stay, to live or die we are powerless because we take decisions regardless of others’ feelings, but based on our own needs and expectations. Every type of intervention in others’ decisions is selfish and unnecessary and by the end of this article, you will understand better what is this about.
We meet people in our lives and become getting closer to them, spending enough time together to learn their habits and the way they are. We spend hours, days, months, or years together and we get the false impression that we know better what is best for them. We give advice to our children, spouse, and friends like we are entitled to give our own opinion. But how many times do we care what are they really want and is it not only what we think will suit them better? We think is better for some to get married and have offspring, others to keep their career or maybe to travel abroad. We really wear their shoes and ask if what we recommend is actually what our friends desire? How many times did we care about what others truly want besides our selfish perspective? We loved people in our lives and wish them so much to remain longer next to us, but did we ever ask them if they want that so or are too embarrassed to leave, are money involved or parents prejudiced? We choose sometimes people in our lives because we feel alone and we continue our lives together because we don’t want to be lonely. We spend years of our lives investing feelings and emotions in a relationship that doesn’t fulfill us but we live with hope that one-day things will get better. We are getting comfortable in relationships and we adjust our needs based on limited expectations as long we don’t need to put much effort. We are rotten of regrets and yet still keeping the family standards because is too hard for us to admit that the love we got was from the clearance aisle.
We can’t predict the future even if would be a great deal in avoiding these disasters in love, but unfortunately, we can only go through it and decide later it is a good place to stay. But many times we get ourselves trapped in the web set up by mistake and we find it impossible to release ourselves. We give up our dreams, our hopes, our careers for the sake of children, our vacations are just a pile of stressful time spent close to home and the routine of a day seems copied from the Groundhog movie. What if even if we made so many mistakes there is still a chance to change our future and replace the clearance section of our lives with the top brand merchandisers? What if instead of rushing through the broken hearts that were left unloved on aisle seven, we visit the ones that seem sturdy and polished with care? We can choose more carefully and decide from a place in life where we don’t have to rush and randomly pick something on our way out, but make a list of all the characteristics we should want to have in life. What if instead of a stormy passionate but chemical-destructive product we can choose something with a sturdy backbone and polished outcome. Someone that can be careful with the way is handling us, someone that cares about quality, and someone that is able to put effort and invest more than a few random messages whenever the time is proper for them? Don’t even think to say that is not affordable. Our sanity, health, and happiness are mandatory and if none of those are found in our basic needs, probably the place we shop is not fitting our standards. Investments in the long term are always good for a lifetime plan rather than quick income of spare change. And if life alone seems scary, we should remember what heartbreak and betrayal feel, what sleepless nights and worries are and how important are peaceful moments in front of an endless battle to survive.
The choosing part is not all, because these are always bring a small bonus. The good part should be that whatever is coming will not try to manipulate or change no one. Every one of us should remember that once we leave our dreams behind and our lives are lived for others, we will never be able to fulfill our mission on this life on Earth. Even if someone decides to leave, we should have the strength to let them go no matter how much we loved them. However, before finding ourselves in front of such a struggle and painful situation, we should never forget to put effort and to enjoy the journey of this life. If there is not a desire to see the other one happy and to support their dreams if there is not one based on personal ego and false expectations, then everything is left to do every day, should be seen as the last day we can live on Earth? The memories we leave for others, kept inside of the pocket of the ripped jeans will be just the triggering point that would keep together all the memories we gathered. That is why so important to not choose the love from the clearance aisle because those hearts are already so much damaged and no matter how much will try to fix them, we will never succeed. We made probably many times the mistake to try to fix someone that was so broken that did not want to continue their journey and the burdens were too heavy, but each of us has our own baggage to carry. We can try to change their mind and redirect their boat to calmer waters, but we will never be able to change someone’s life as long as they are not willing to do so. So please stop trying to fix the broken hearts and tell me, are you willing to sign a contract where you would guarantee with your own life for not choosing any other love from the clearance aisle? Would you make a pact with yourselves and sign here ______________________?
….continue reading the rest of the tale in PART 68